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Many people think that having high self-esteem will help you accept yourself better and make you more at ease in every element of your life, but you can find that loving yourself as much as you can make you feel worried for no apparent reason.
Well, allow me to remove the blindfold and inform you that you are hurting yourself more than you realize. Allow me to introduce you to the wonderful world of mental health; at the end of this post, I’ll provide you with some advice and methods for achieving it.
Don’t let your feelings or emotions have control over you.
Everyone is continually told to follow their hearts and their sentiments in order to achieve their goals, but the truth is that doing so will only make things worse for you. They are not some type of mystical solutions that will guide you to your destiny, firstly because they are merely alarms and secondly because they might be a roller coaster.
I mean that they generally serve as warnings about your behavior. For instance, if you start overthinking, you’ll feel worried and confused, and you might even feel sad or depressed. This is your body telling you to cease the behavior. On the other hand, if you feel delighted when engaging in a certain activity, like a hobby, your feelings will advise you to engage in that activity more often.
he reality is that we are powerless over our emotions; you will experience sadness, tension, anger, and other negative emotions at various points throughout your life. However, you will also experience joy, happiness, and excitement, and all of these emotions will come over you like a gust of wind or a punch without your being able to stop them. Attempting to control your emotions will only make you feel more stuck in them.
The good news is that there is a solution; rather than attempting to control them, just monitor them, experience whatsoever comes to you, and then let it go without overreacting if it’s a bad emotion, or enjoying it if it’s a nice sensation. Be aware that both pleasant and unpleasant feelings will pass and new ones will come; they just won’t rule you because you are not your emotions.
Embrace your thoughts
You will continue to think till the day you pass away since the brain is wired to think like a fabric of ideas, but you should also allow your thoughts to drift along with your sensations. Of course, it is difficult to stop thinking about your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, the disagreement you had at work later, or all the expenses you have to pay. Terrible ideas are accompanied by bad sensations, and overthinking can only cause you to perceive reality incorrectly and to become trapped on a variety of levels.
You should not overthink sensations or thoughts; instead, just observe them as if you were watching a movie. For instance, a sad movie may make you feel sad, but you know that the story and the characters are not you. Think of your thoughts as those characters; you are not your thoughts; you are merely observing them; eventually, they will cease to exist.
Detach from yourself
Self-esteem will urge you to love yourself and everything about you, but the harder you try “loving” yourself, the more irritated you’ll be. The confidence associated with self-esteem is an illusion since it encourages you to think only about yourself, loves you as much as you can, celebrates all you do, etc. However, behind all that, there is a gigantic ego.
Because the human mind, in general, sees the negative aspects of everything, thinking so much about yourself will also lead to the mistaken impression that everyone else is also thinking and talking about you, leaving you irritated because you don’t know if their thoughts are good or bad. Since the human mind, in general, perceives the negative aspects of everything, they must be thinking negatively and criticizing every move you make or even attempting to pull you down, right?
Let me now take some of the pressure off your shoulders. The truth is that no one spends that much time thinking about themselves since we are all more focused on ourselves. Even when you assist others, you are more focused on yourself, thinking that you did good deeds or followed the rules. Consider this: Humans’ frustration, worries, and troubles are all a result of our obsession with ourselves.
Take a step back, then! Close your eyes and give it a try right this second. Let your mind wander from any thoughts of yourself while you deeply breathe in and out. When your mental health reaches that degree, you’ll feel more self-assured and capable of distancing yourself from your emotions and thoughts. You won’t be affected by other people or outside circumstances any longer.
Last but not least, you need to understand that in order to have a healthy brain, you must train your mind. Just like getting physically active is necessary if you want to be fit, your mind is accustomed to a particular way of acting, but with the right training, it can change.
Here are three suggestions and methods to improve your mental health now that you are aware of some of its advantages.
PRACTICE GRATITUDE
Gratitude is one of the finest ways to improve your attitude and become less self-centered. Keeping a gratitude diary is a great tool for this. In whatsoever notebook or piece of paper, list at least three things for which you are grateful. Don’t be shy about including even the seemingly insignificant things; just do it.
Daily practice can help you start noticing the positive aspects of everything, even on difficult days or through difficult times, which will lift your spirits in any circumstance.
MEDITATE FREQUENTLY
Religion or any strange mystical rituals have nothing to do with meditation, which is simply taking a few minutes out of your ,day to disconnect from everyone and everything, especially yourself and relax, ponder, or perhaps engage in some introspective.
It may seem difficult at first because you need to know how to do it, but fear not, there are now many apps made specifically for meditation, and you only need to practice for at least 5 minutes each day. You can do it before bed or in the mornings the first 45 minutes of your day are said to determine your mood for the rest of the day, so try it before getting dressed or taking a shower.
STOP BAD MENTAL HABITS
Make a note of your negative thought patterns and read it every day so you can recognize when your mind is wandering in that direction and put a stop to it. Over time, you’ll find that you do it less and less often.
Some examples of unhealthy mental habits include comparing oneself to others, negative thoughts, trying to control other people’s conduct, opining on everyone else’s lives, taking things personally when others say them, believing that everything is about you or that the world is against you, etc.
Begin as soon as you can, and then post a comment with your thoughts or experiences.
I look forward to hearing from you!
